You have no reason to feel any shame as a mother. Do you know what you’ve done right? You have shared your struggles with your daughter and allowed your vulnerabilities to show without blaming her for your problems. That is more than your own mother could do ( or mine). That is a huge gift you have given her. You have taught her empathy and made her feel like a valuable person who has something to contribute. She wants to help you, but does not feel responsible for your happiness. I hope you know how amazing that is.