When I was younger, I would have said that too. From the perspective of my present self (aged 60), I agree wholeheartedly with every point.

And I was certainly not perfect on all of these points when I met my husband and I still am not. I simply got better as the years went by and so did he. Every day I am so grateful to be with him and have been for ten years.

Don't be discouraged. Just do your best.