If people realized that all of their difficulties were planned, life would be so different! It was a realization that changed my perspective immensely. I could forgive my abusive parents and even the bullies from middle school!
But I think sometimes souls plan too many lessons. My mother now realizes she was an abusive and neglectful parent, but she is having a great deal of difficulty integrating the lessons she was supposed to learn. And honestly, I don’t think I would have dealt very well with her circumstances.