I have always questioned the idea that one should want a relationship rather than need one. I am a relationship person. I need a relationship to feel complete. This did not stop my husband and I from getting together and having an amazing marriage that gets better every day. He completes me. I believe that we were meant to get together when we did. We were both needy when we met- supposedly a big no-no. We have been happy for ten years. This may be a good overall rule, but there are exceptions.